Free Myers Briggs Personality Test and Other Resources To Know Yourself Better

Introversion is a tendency to live in one's head. When the world is going crazy we can retreat to our heads for some peace and quiet.

I first learned about introversion when I took the Myers Briggs Type Indicator assessment tool in 1998 and found out that I was an INFP - the Healer personality type. The assessment helped me feel validated for who I was. I often come back to personality assessments when I'm feeling off center and unsettled.

Today I redid the assessment and came up as INFJ - the Counselor.  And today this feels right. Aaaahhhh that feels gooooooodddd.

You can take a free Myers Briggs test at this link if you are interested
http://bit.ly/eeiFO8

There are more comprehensive tests and coaching available through CAPT.


The summary the free test provided described my profile as:

• distinctively expressed introvert
• moderately expressed intuitive personality
• slightly expressed feeling personality
• slightly expressed judging personality 

What has been helpful for me is learning that on these dimensions we can be slight or moderate or strong and that they can shift over time depending on how we fill out the survey, the mood we are in at the time and the circumstances around us that call out different sides of our personality.

I find personality assessments a quick way to find solid footing and recharge my sense of self worth when someone or something knocks it down. We all need something to lean on but it's important that we don't use assessments as a crutch. No one assessment can provide a picture of all the richness of who we are. That's why I like to use a variety of tools to find my center.

Here are three of my favourite resources:  (Note: I don't make any money promoting these resources)

1. Pearson-Marr Archetype Indicator® (PMAI®) assessment

I love the idea of living a story and playing a character and role in the world. Archetypes and the PMAI assessment help tap into our stories and roles. I will be writing about this in future blog postings.

The Pearson-Marr Archetype Indicator® (PMAI®) assessment is designed to help an individual understand the roles they prefer to adopt as they approach life.

Learn more about the PMAI
Take the PMAI for $18US

2. Playful Way to Knowing Yourself

A dynamic workbook that prompts you to look at yourself from angles and perspectives you would not otherwise see. I like the picture prompts the author uses to tap into different aspects of our personality and values. Get it here.

3. The Introverts Advantage 

One of the bibles to learn about introversion and how to leverage the strengths and manage the downsides of being a Quiet Guy. Get it here.


I love my introverted tendencies and all the richness that comes with it. Using assessments to better understand introversion and other aspects of my personality and place in the world gives me strength and stability in a constantly changing world.

What resources do you utilize to reconnect with who you are and find solid footing? Please share in the comments below.

5 Questions To Calm The Angry Introvert

Anger is an emotion that creeps up. It attaches itself to our minds and hearts like a parasite that feeds on our souls. It compromises our relationships and reputation when it strikes in unhealthy ways.

Anger is triggered when we feel we have lost something. That loss could be the loss of a loved one, the loss of money, the loss of an opportunity...the list goes on and on.

The loss of control, or the perception of it is a common trigger for anger. Tightly woven to the loss of control is the need to be right which often creates battles at home and at work.

As introverts the challenge we can have with anger is how to manage it and prevent it from building up inside of us. That is until something or someone tips the scale and blamo the anger is released. And the anger that is released often takes the form of verbal or physical actions that emotionally or physically harm others and potentially ourselves.

Let's dig deeper into the beliefs that cause anger to bubble and explode and then I will suggest some questions you can ask yourself to help take the pressure off and turn anger into calm in a matter of seconds.

When I've explored the web of beliefs connected to the need to feel in control one core belief is "I am right and they are wrong."


The reason anger builds up is that we have either not learned or are not applying the skill of surrendering our need to be right. Our need to be right creates an instant battlefield that requires a winner and a loser. A simple shift in perspective can help. We need to snap ourselves out of our own heads and get into the heads and hearts of the person we are directing our anger at as quickly as possible.

These are questions that have worked for me. I hope they help you too. 

1. Who am I being?

This question helps increase awareness of behaviour and sometimes just by itself is enough to create a healthy shift that defuses anger. 

2. Why do I love them?

This question puts the angry introvert right into the heart of the other person in a positive way and takes the focus away from winning the fight.

3. How might they be right?

There are other points of view and without giving up your voice you can share your position and then you can seek to understand the other person's position.

4. What is this costing me?

There is always a cost to anger. Reminding yourself what not dealing with anger is doing to you and those around you can move you to take positive action. 

5. Who do I want to be?

Reconnecting to the vision of the person you are striving to be is a powerful antidote to anger. 

Anger is an emotion that personally I want to work on managing better. I'm sure I'll be writing about this again. What makes you angry? How do you manage it?

THE answer to the dreaded 'Elevator Pitch'

I used to teach entrepreneurs how to craft an elevator pitch. An elevator pitch is a short summary of the value you offer.

I've studied the masters and have shared their tips for many years. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a clear and compelling message or story about the value you offer. The problem is that introverts invest far too much time and energy searching for the perfect words without actually testing it out in the real world. We do like to live in our heads don't we?

If I've learned anything in the past year, especially from author and marketing guru Seth Godin it is the importance of trying things out in the real world, learning from the experience and adjusting as you go.

There is no perfect formula. There are no perfect words. What I've personally witnessed is that people buy you and your passion to help them solve their problems or achieve their goals. The words you use are far less important than the excitement you transfer to others. And the best way to get excited is to get out there and share whatever it is you are passionate about with the people you love to serve.

There is a deep yearning within quiet entrepreneurs to be heard and accepted. This yearning drives them to invest a lot of time and money to find the perfect words. My message today is simple. Stop worrying about the perfect words and get focused on the people you are here to serve.

Ask lots of questions to understand what they care about, dream about, cry about and get pissed off about. Use your natural gift of listening to truly help others feel heard and important. Nothing is more attractive than that. Who needs an elevator pitch if you focus on being interested in other people rather than on your own navel?

As a card carrying member of the introverted side of life I know how much I enjoy living in my head and how much that tendency can limit my ability to help others. I'm writing this post as much for myself as I am for you.

Do you know what the people you are serving really want and how to help them get it? If so, write it down so you don't go off track and focus on being the best at whatever it is you are doing. If not, shift your focus to become more interested in others and make it your mission this week to ask more questions and learn something new about the people you want to help.